Spanking the husband, tutorial

Spanking Your Husband - A tutorial Guideline

Punishment of a naughty husband can take many forms: a simple scolding, a time-out in the corner, a mouth-washing, or a spanking.

 However , the foundation for them all is the spanking. 

The experience of being spanked hard by his wife makes him more cooperative than the less physical punishments. 

By this I do not mean a simple slap on the buttocks. No , what I mean is a serious, over-the-knee, bare-bottomed, hard spanking with something other than your hand. 

You may begin the spanking using your hand , but you must also use something such as a paddle, a hairbrush or a leather belt.

After a good, hard spanking , a husband feels both regret for his actions , and appreciation for his wife for taking the time to give him the gift of correction.

A good, sound spanking releases built up tensions and frustrations in a marriage and can  actually be very enjoyable for the wife. 

The wife feels empowered by being able to threaten a punishment she is more than willing to carry out  and her punishment of him will be loving as well as disciplinary.

As for the husband who has been spanked or threatened with spanking, he will  feel truly sorry for his poor behaviour and truly appreciative of the wife who cares enough to discipline him.
In fact, most wives require that their husbands thank them for the spanking after it has been completed.

When you spank your husband, you must do so seriously.
When he is over your knee do not allow yourself to feel sympathy for him or to spank weakly or playfully. 

 No, he must take his place over your knee when commanded to do so and ,once you start spanking , you must make it hurt. When you scold your husband before, during or after a spanking, it must be with a serious tone.

 Your husband must feel real pain, discomfort and humiliation.

He should be begging you to stop long before you actually stop , and you want the sting and discomfort in his backside to linger for a few days .

 This seriousness ,  does not mean that you cannot have a sense of humoUr about the spanking.
It is, in fact, very funny that he will be feeling the effects of your punishment on that embarrassingly private part of his anatomy .
Humour is an important part of this kind of relationship so you can laugh at him or with him .
It is probably important that he see your humour expressed so he is reminded that you are a real person,that said, it is important that during a punishment, he feels the seriousness of his offence.

That is what makes spanking so effective.

Once you are done spanking him properly , he should  want to prevent this from happening again, and will be reminded of that each time he sits for some time after.
In fact , make a point of teasing him and reminding him that you are the person who rendered him with such difficulty to sit!
When he is enduring such discomfort, remember that he is enduring it for you! He is proving his devotion and love for you.

Remember , no one is perfect and he may need to be disciplined with some regularity. 

When providing discipline, make a point of enjoying the power of it.
Indulge the part of you that likes being in control and tell your husband ahead of time, in serious tone, that you need to have an important talk with him and that you have set this time aside for that purpose. 

You will have already determined the behaviours for which you are going to chastise him and the rules you are going to impose. 

As you begin the lecture phase, take his face in your hand and hold him by the chin and cheeks. Look directly in his eyes. Insist that he look at you. This gesture sets the tone by establishing your dominance. 

Once you have gained his attention this way, begin the lecture.

During this phase it is best to maintain the tone of an old-fashioned scolding , and really dish it out. 

Gestures that should be used generously during the lecture phase are the finger pointed at his face , and the hands on hips posture.
It is best if you are able to look down on him as you scold him.
You should be well above him either standing or sitting in a normal chair. 

It is now that you list his offences and  make him acknowledge each one and express his remorse.
Tell him that he needs to be punished for these behaviours and ask him if he agrees. He will! 

Start off with a minor punishment such as perhaps a mouth-soaping for offences such as rudeness , inconsiderate comments , bad language,  or losing his temper . Or make him write an apologetic statement 100 times or more with paper and pen for offences that involve poor manners or disrespect toward you. 

Be creative. 

He will comply  but you’ll still wish to make it clear that any resistance during this phase of the punishment will only “make it worse” for him later.

Now it is time for the main event — The Spanking. 

As you spank your husband, your tone of voice can change a little.
As your actions become more harsh, your tone of voice can become softer and more understanding.

Your husband will, at some point, beg you to stop spanking him.
This reference point in his spanking will help you determine how much longer to continue the spanking. 

For example , if the offence for which he is being punished is relatively mild, consider the point at which he has begun to beg you stop as the 3/4 mark (It is a good idea to keep count of your strokes. You can count in your head, count out loud, or even have him count out loud).
So in this case , if you have administered 50 hard spanks you should deliver another 15 or more hard spanks before stopping.

If his behaviour has been more serious , let the point of  begging  signal your halfway point , so at 50 hard spanks deliver another 50.

If his behaviour has been really bad, let the point of  begging mark your 1/4 point.
So if he begs after 50 hard ones , you need to administer another 200 hard spanks before you finish.

This will undoubtedly leave him blistered and sore for days after , but  do not let up , it is his own fault  he is in this position , not yours remember.

Remember , he will struggle during the spanking, but you must keep him over your lap and never let him up until you have finished and permitted him.
Even though he may be physically stronger than you, if the tone is set properly he will be in a submissive frame of mind and will not use his full strength to get away.  

A good technique is to take one of your legs and place it over both of his .
This is called a leg lock.
In addition , order him to put his arm back and then hold it in place at the small of his back with your non-spanking hand.
This will significantly reduce his ability to struggle , and allow you to concentrate your strokes on his ‘sit-spot’ , the tender area between his lower buttocks and upper thighs .

It is called the ‘sit-spot’ as it is the area which will take most of his weight when he sits down.
It will give you the amusement and satisfaction of seeing him wince each team he sits and perhaps avoid sitting altogether by eating meals standing up!

When truly disciplining their husband , many wives do not end the spanking until he is actually crying.
That’s when you  know you’ve really reached him, that the lesson has hit home.
It also fosters a beautiful intimacy between you.
Men do no openly cry in front of others so when his punishment makes him cry it shows his vulnerability .

The most enjoyable part of the disciplinary session for many women is the period immediately following the spanking.
At this point he will be as submissive as a lap dog.
He is often crying, is begging you for your forgiveness, and is usually on his knees.
Now is the time you can be gentle with him.

You can accept his apologies tenderly and reinforce the lessons he’s learned with a softer tone of voice. 

We all have our own vocabulary for this time of forgiveness just as we all have our own way of administering a scolding.
Asking him if he has learned his lesson, what he has learned, and extracting promises for future behaviour are good ways to start the reconciliation phase of correction. 

Remind him that it was his behaviour that got him into this situation and that you do not punish unless he deserves it.
Warn him that you will not hesitate to punish him again when his behaviour warrants it.

After you have accepted his apology, he may think the scene is over.
It is recommended to continue his punishment to let him know that although he is forgiven, he has not regained any power. 

There are a number of things you can do now. 

Have him stand in the corner for a while.
He is not to move and definitely not to touch his buttocks during corner time.

He will desperately want to use his hands to sooth  his  sore backside.
You must  forbid that. 

If he does it once, give him a warning, if he does it again slap both his hands and  his backside - HARD.
At this point, your bare hand will  give an excruciating sting to his tender skin.

Instead , or in addition to ,corner time, you can give him chores to do .
You can either keep him naked for the chores , or have him wear an apron or something else that is open in the back.
Don't allow him to have any soothing cloth against the skin of his butt at this time. 

Whether he is doing corner time or chores, you’ll want to maintain visual access to him to be sure that he is not trying to sooth his butt.
You can sit somewhere with your cup of tea or glass of wine and read or watch TV or whatever, so long as you can give him an occasional glance and he knows that you can see him.

Once his corner time is served and assigned chores are completed to your satisfaction , he will be waiting for your permission to go back to his day. , remember he knows now you hold they power so do not yield so easily.
While he is still naked have him serve you for a while by kneeling to kiss your feet and  give you them a soothing massage.
During the massage you can continue to tease him about how red and sore his bottom will be for the next few days.

After this , I like to order him to run me a bath and tease him mercilessly as I undress.
Make sure to hold out a hand beckoning him to help you into the tub.
If he is smart he will comply willingly.
Seeing you naked may restore his erection but make sure you ignore it completely - for now.

Have him wash your back and then have him wait as you lie back and relax.
When you are ready , order him to fetch a towel and hold it for you.
As a small ‘reward’ you can let him dry you off and fetch your robe.

If you do this right his erection will be throbbing by now but continue not to notice.
At this point I lay back on the bed and allow my husband to pleasure me with only his tongue - nothing else .
He is not permitted to touch my body with his hands even though he is surely aching to do so.
Just to show him I am still calling the shots I have him start with his tongue in my anus and after a while he can move on to my clitoris.

Only when he had pleasured me to my satisfaction will I turn my attention to his erection and give him a well deserved hand job which he had better thank me for unless he wants another dose of my hairbrush.

That evening he is to take me to dinner where I expect the 'full treatment'.
Opening doors , holding my chair , pampering and of course paying the bill.
By now his bottom will be a different type of sore which will make sitting very uncomfortable for him , and make sure you tease him incessantly about this .

When we do go home and have the sex he is begging for by now , it is on my terms , by which I mean I get to be on top so his tender bottom will be chaffing beneath me.

I can guarantee if you follow these instructions you will have a loving and devoted husband and a strong marriage.